If we were to believe health magazines, gossip columns, the magical key to enter the land of endless orgasms is our G-Spot... we just need to get our hands on it, while many have tried, only a few have succeeded. But what if we told you that, the G-Spot simply and physically doesn’t exist?
Does it really exist?The G-spot, or Gräfenberg spot, was found by a famous German gynecologist called Dr. Gräfenberg, after whom it was named as well. In 1940s, his research documented this sensitive region within the vagina in some women. There is a soft, sponge-like structure inside the front wall of the vagina that, when stimulated, the woman climaxes or feels intense pleasure. Soon enough, the G-spot became the stairway to sexual heaven. There were magazines, talks, articles, a lot of toys that came into the market which were supposedly G-Keys— the key to your G-spot. However, recent studies have shown that not only is the G-spot not a ‘spot’, but rather an area.
Where is the G-spot?
The G-spot is typically reported to be located 2–3 inches up the front vaginal wall between the vaginal opening and the urethra. In order to find it, you need to insert one or two fingers inside the vagina. About two knuckles in or 2–3 inches should do it. And then feel the area located on the anterior wall, the wall closest to the belly. You should be able to sense this sort of ridges there — similar to the ridges on the roof of your mouth. With consistent stimulation this area will begin to swell and so the ridges will become more pronounced. If you feel uncomfortable or you suddenly feel an urgent need to urinate, don't panic, it's actually normal. Meanwhile, some women touching this area won't feel anything at all.
What could the G-spot be?There is no single anatomical structure called the G-spot. It could exist, but it most definitely isn’t a spot. It’s located in the area where the clitoris, urethra, and vagina all meet up. All these structures - the clitoris, the urethra and the vagina - have a lot of nerve endings which contributes to the sensitivity of this area and to the pleasure that a woman can feel when the G-Spot is stimulated. And speaking of the urethra, it is surrounded by the urethral sponge and that urethral sponge is this sort of cushion of tissue that sits against the vaginal wall in the exact place where the G-Spot is supposed to be. The clitoris is actually much larger than the rosebud-shaped knob at the apex of a woman’s labia. It can be almost 4 inches long in some people. The clitoris is like a root, a divided thing with 2 bulbs and that lies somewhere around your anterior vaginal wall. When that is stimulated, it leads to an orgasm or pleasure. That is known as the G-spot in simple language — the area where the internal portion of the clitoris, the urethra, and the vagina all come together could be the G-spot.
So while the G-Spot itself might not be a real thing, there is an erogenous zone linked to the clitoris on the vaginal wall, and some women can achieve an orgasm by stimulating it from inside the vagina.
Problem with the G-spot
Cosmopolitan,an American monthly fashion and entertainment magazine for women, found in a survey that 44% of vagina owners felt frustrated, confused and anxious while trying to locate their G-spot and 31% said that their partners got annoyed while searching for it. Not being able to find the G-spot has women all over the world feeling incomplete, insecure and ashamed. Still, many women aren’t convinced they have a G-spot. When British researchers asked 1,800 women if they believed they had a G-spot, only 56% said yes.
The idea behind finding and describing the mysterious G-Spot was that it was meant to empower women and help them experience arousal more easily. However, so far it has also created a big problem. It sent us all on a frantic search of a structure that looks and feels and behaves differently in different women because we are all unique and our bodies and vaginas are different. And while some women will experience heights of pleasure while having their G-Spots stimulated, for others it won't feel that great. And that doesn't mean that there's anything wrong with these women. You are not abnormal or strange or dysfunctional if you cannot find your G-spot. Your sexual pleasure does not depend on one imaginary spot in your vagina, but rather multiple real spots all over your body.
Do What Works for You
Sexual pleasure was never supposed to be just about finding the G-Spot and it's wrong to expect that every woman should enjoy G-Spot pleasure or have G-Spot orgasms. If you enjoy the stimulation of your G-Spot area - great! Ifyou can orgasm from it or even squirt fluid during that orgasm - amazing! But if you can't find your G-Spot or if you don't feel much when that area is stimulated, that's okay as well. There's nothing wrong with you and you're not dysfunctional. Your job is to find and identify your special spots that give joy, arousal and pleasure to you, regardless of what the media, your friends or anybody else has to say about that. Also remember that the best contributors to sexual satisfaction for majority of women are a sense of intimacy and a deep heart connection between partners. So don't get fixated on any supposedly magical spots in your vagina.
So stop panicking. It’s not a treasure or a hidden secret. G-spot is no special mystery, it’s just a clit-urethral-vaginal complex that feels and behaves differently in all women.